Change Scares Me.
When was the last time you took a chance, went out on a limb and completely flipped your world upside down? When was the last time you did something so different, so challenging and so offbeat that your stomach did somersaults?
If I’m being honest, I absolutely detest change. I’m the kind of person who loves routine, thrives in the familiar and enjoys a sense of control over a life already established. I like familiar people, staying in the same places and doing the same work daily. Call me boring and conventional, but that’s who I am. However, it recently took me some serious soul-searching to realize that a sense of familiarity and “sameness” will only get me so far. One fine day, I realized that I had hit some kind of ceiling for growth. My enthusiasm for life had plateaued. I had become too comfortable with who I was and where I was in life. I needed to make a change. Soon.
Because if nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies, would there? Change is the catalyst that jolts us out of our sleep, pushes us away from our comfort zones and forces us to evolve into better, stronger versions of ourselves. Change isn’t easy, and no one should pretend it is. That new job, that new city, that new relationship, it’s daunting, but necessary. A major life change is painful, uncomfortable and downright inconvenient.
This takes me back to a conversation I had with my parents while we were eating together at a restaurant. I told them how terrified I was of my new life, all the changes that were around the corner. My mom simply pointed to a three-year-old kid sitting not far from us and said, “Look at that kid, if he doesn’t change, he’ll remain that size forever. That’s not very productive, is it?”
It’s a wonderful thing to remain as you are, to just take life in your stride and not make big efforts to change who you are. But that’s also useless. You aren’t growing. You aren’t evolving. You aren’t reaching your full potential. Don’t get me wrong, there is always solace and peace to be found in comfort, and as human beings, we are genetically programmed to be averse to change. There’s an evolutionary reason for it, because we survive best when we are settled and comfortable. I do believe that comfort is important, as is routine and a solid base. But when you feel you’re not getting anywhere, you must step up and make that change you so desperately need and deserve.
As afraid as I am of change, I am taking baby steps each day to embrace it. I like the person I’m becoming, and accepting all the changes life is throwing at me. It’s slow, painful and torturous at times, but I’ve realized that a positive attitude, a vision for the future, and an openness to the unknown will take me farther than I’ve ever been.
Here’s to the best versions of ourselves!