I'm sitting at work, watching people do their jobs, excelling at it. Then I look at the work before me, and think about how mediocre I really am compared to them. If only I could be so efficient...

Next, I'm in a conversation with some acquaintances, listening to them talk about how successful they are at work, that new promotion, that once-in-a-lifetime vacation, that engagement, that new baby on the way...

Then I'm scrolling through my Instagram and I see people achieving their goals, writing books, publishing poems, taking incredible pictures and creating amazing works of art. And then I wonder, why am I not that talented? Why do I lack so much?

What is even the point of me trying anymore? There always seems to be someone better than me at nearly everything I can do...

I've written before that comparison is the thief of joy. In fact, I very often accept that comparing our life and abilities with others' is a giant waste of time and energy. It really is pointless and gets you nowhere. Personally, I've struggled with comparisons more that I can admit. Right now, as I write this blog, a thought telling me that my writing is "not good enough" crept into my mind. It's that difficult to avoid these feelings of inferiority and doubt.

But the thing is, we're not very good at stopping ourselves. We continue to idolize others' perfect lives, sinking deeper and deeper into our own little caves of isolation and negativity. It becomes self-destructive and painful. Yet, we continue to expose ourselves to the lies that we aren't really capable. We have change this. We have to to stop thinking that we're not deserving of what we have. We have to stop belittling our wonderful talents and abilities. Our stripes and our scars are equally well earned. Our successes and failures are equally worthy of showing off.

Enough with the self-hatred. Enough with the self-loathing. Enough of telling yourself that you're not worth it. Enough of pity on yourself.


Because you ARE enough.

It's very easy to fall into the rabbit-hole of self-criticism and hatred. It's very easy to bash yourself and realize your limitations. And sometimes, those limitations are valid and very real. But by constantly reducing yourself in comparison to others, you fail to give credit to the incredible creation that is YOU. You, who have achieved so much in life, who have fought through difficulties and lived real, unique experiences.

It's good to recognize what you lack, but only if you work on improving those areas. I believe that comparisons to others and feelings of inadequacy can only be productive if we work on becoming better versions of ourselves. Not blindly wishing that we were different. Or better. We already have everything we need within us. But feeling inadequate for things that you already have, can already do and already are, is unfounded.Instead of knocking yourself down for every little thing that you feel you lack ,try building yourself up by being kind and patient with yourself. Try encouraging yourself and you'll see the change.

You deserve so much more than you think you do. And you don't need to change anything about yourself to match up to others. You have what it takes to work hard, achieve your dreams and make a good life for yourself. You have passions and talents that others don't. Nobody can take your place, and that's the truth.

You are truly, honestly, in every sense of the word, enough.

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